Thursday, March 19, 2009

Love doesn't hurt

So today I was watching Oprah and her topic was men who hit women.  The first guest described the first time he hit his wife.  I'm sitting there listening to him, wondering why he's roaming around free as a bird.  Why isn't this guy in jail?  Oh, well he's reformed now.  He found God along the way and now he doesn't hit his wife.  Now when he starts to feel angry, he holds it in and says a little prayer to God.  What???

Why is this woman still married to him?  He hit her more than once.  It wouldn't take more than once for me to be gone!  Bye bye, see ya later, gone!  I don't want to hear apologies, I don't want to hear excuses, I don't want to hear about your sorry childhood, rotten daddy--there is no excuse for hitting a woman, that's it, gone.  He tried to choke her, sat on her stomach when she was pregnant.  Why is this guy still walking around?  Where was his punishment?

It infuriates me.  Boy, for once I'd like to read about a woman who fights back.  Yes, I know men are usually stronger than women, but if it was me, I'd get in at least one good kick, punch or bite, something.  Sure, I'd probably lose the battle, but he'd get something back.

And that shows you how absurd the whole thing is.  This is supposed to be the person you LOVE.  Since when do you show love by punching, choking, shoving, slapping, or otherwise abusing your partner?

Men who hit women have a problem.  It has to do with rage, uncontrolled anger.  What is it they're really mad about?  Fix the problem, I say.  Don't take it out on an innocent victim.


  1. It's disheartening. I've never understood it, either. Stories like this make my blood boil and my adrenaline peak, and I think, I'd go down swinging. Something about these women that makes them weak in that sense, I guess.

  2. I had to come back and say, I saw a blip of Oprah last night (when they replay it at primetime) while my hubby was flipping channels. I know we aren't supposed to judge by appearance, but he didn't look like a "tamed" dude.